The Overall winner of Ms. AfricaWorldwide also recieves :
*Competetion Prize worth £10,000
*Ambassador award for Miss Africa Worldwide for 1 year ( media representative of the brand)
*All expenses VIP Trip to Cameroon ( Driver, accomodation and chaperon)
*Photoshoot and front cover of Africa Mag ( Brand new magazine for Africa and the only magazine covering the whole continent of Africa)

Preferably applicants should have an origin or linkage in the following countries;
*Nigeria
*Ghana
*Kenya
*Mali
*Malawi
*Moroco
*Namibia
*Tanzania
*Tunisia
*Zimbabwe
*Eriteria
*South Africa
*Cameroon
*Ethopia
*Somalia
*Botsawana
*Angola
*Tanzania
*Uganda
*Zambia

To apply for Miss Africa Worldwide 2012. E-mail: missafrica@africamag.com

Happy Tuesday!! Hope everyone enjoyed the long bank holiday weekend. Obviously, we are back in full effect with An Inside Out Job blog… Last week i had the pleasure to interview the founder of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Richard Bandler, this guy has researched, written and defined a programme that can help many. I’ll post my interview soon! Back to this week’s blog, we are talking about ‘Seeing is Believing’…. Read, share and enjoy! Let’s GO!

I want you to do something for me. Imagine it’s Wednesday morning. You get up, brush your teeth, and have a bath. Please picture yourself walking into your bathroom in your house, picking up the soap, really having a bath, and then picking up your towel. Make sure you wipe yourself clean, as you don’t want to be wetting the floors back to your room. Get your cream, open the lid, put your fingers into the tub, and really take the sufficient quantity you need for your body. Then rub your body from your head and shoulders to your knees and toes until you are well oiled. Do your hair the way you do, until you are happy with it. Now get dressed and pick your clothes for the day. Please put them on carefully and then imagine yourself looking at the mirror. What can you see? Are you happy with the way you look? I hope you are. Now that you are finished, get your socks on your feet, put on your shoes, and remember to grab your keys and leave the house. Please don’t forget to lock your house door on your way out. How did that feel? Did you see yourself going through everything listed above? It’s pretty achievable right? Well, you have just visualized your morning. That’s the law of visualization; before you achieve, you need to be able to create a mental picture. Actually, scrap that as a picture is static and fixed. You need to create a mental video; imagine yourself being a film director and create a video in your mind about you already successful. Don’t just imagine millions in the bank or a mansion in the country. Those are pictures of material symbols of success. You need to create a video in your mind of how you ended up being successful, so fantasise about your success. It could be that you were in school, studied really hard and then passed your exams, got into high school and decided to go to university to become an Accountant. Pick a university in your ‘mind video’. What’s so good about that University? Imagine yourself making long-term friends, attending lessons, going through course works, and graduating. Can you see yourself graduating, your name being called to pick up certificate on stage? Brilliant. Now imagine your self filling in several job application forms, going into countless job interviews, getting some rejection letters, and then imagine a letter popping into the post. You open it and is the one you have been waiting for. You’ve got your first proper job! Imagine going into work and meeting your new boss. Now start creating good relationships with your colleagues. Imagine you are learning, and then maybe two years later you end up being promoted or opening your own Accountancy firm. How do you look? You must have grown a little bit older. What do you sound like? And, most importantly, who do you sound like? Now imagine a phone call being put through by your secretary and it’s an account you have been waiting for. It’s your biggest account worth over one million pounds. Imagine taking the call. What would your reaction be? Do you scream? Or are you professional and only scream when the phone is put down? What do you do when contracts are signed and the money is put into your account? Do you start spending it immediately or do you save and get on with the job in hand first? What would you do? You cannot think of the final outcome without filming your ‘success video’ in your mind and going through the emotions and journey that led to your success. No one just gets up in the morning with 1 million pounds in their back pocket, even if they won the lottery. There was a mental video to that; you imagined picking your lucky numbers, going into a shop, spending two pounds, getting your ticket, watching the National Lottery television show on BBC, and finding out the results. If you haven’t seen it as a moving video in your mind, it would be hard for it to become an actual reality. Imagine if you were upstairs and I asked you to bring my laptop downstairs for me. Your mind immediately creates an imaginary video of yourself taking the laptop, and you will see yourself walking down the stairs. You mentally calculate the journey even before you choose to do it, or if you are lazy you start contemplating whether it is worth the journey downstairs. This is easier to visualize, but what comes hard for people is usually visualizing a clear map towards attaining their success.

The Law of Visualisation is the process of focusing your concentration on a mental video or your spiritual film of what you want and seeing it as already happening. It is a spiritual activity onceyou get into the inner recesses of your mind and, with the power of the subconscious mind, causes the manifestation of the desired object, instance, or circumstance.

Visualisation resembles our common everyday habits of fantasies, daydreams, and imaginations, but the difference is that it adds a certain discipline into them. Please, please, please do not confuse this with imagination, though I can see the comparison. The difference is, imagination is an outward projection of the mind and has its foundation in desires and emotions. When you imagine something it is not necessarily backed by the power of the conscious will and hardcore intent. If you said to me ‘Imagine if I had 15 millions in the bank’ it is very different from ‘I can see myself in the future having 15 millions in the bank and this is how I achieved it’. Both are important statements, but the first is imagination whilst the second is visualisation. As I mentioned above, a simple picture in the mind is weak, vague, and somewhat in the distance or in the past. Visualisation, contrarily, is of the mind and the use of the will. Visualisation uses rules of faith, make believe, and motivational strength coupled with the laws of Nature and knowledge of the inherent unity and oneness of creation with that which has already been created.

What you visualise is what you actualise. The brain is a great gift to us from the creator and, when working with the mind, can take you places. I have seen people go for a little break in their privacy for thirty minutes and when they come back they tell you stories of being on a holiday at a very special sunny location. These people have mastered visualization to its perfection.

I remember in 2004 we had a young artist who was not that well-known popped into my office. He later on got interviewed live on Invincible Radio. As we began the interview, I asked him what was the most memorable thing that had happened in his life.

He said two years ago he had a very dangerous accident in Los Angeles. His car accident left him with a fractured jaw, and his jaw was supposedly wired shut for six weeks. He told me that he saw his life flash right in front of his eyes when that happened. He explained how he recalled looking in the mirror and saw his jaw was cracked in three places. After surgery to reset his fractured jaw, his jaw remained puffy on the right side because it was not set properly. So, quick to change subject, I asked him how did he feel when he was released from hospital. He replied that he is now more dedicated than ever. He recorded a song called ‘Through the Wire’ and is now doing really well in the US. I proceeded to ask him a question I ask all artists I interview to see whether they had mastered the power of visualization. I asked him where he saw himself in five years time to which he replied, ‘World domination. I know I would be successful. I have seen myself already winning Grammys, doing sell-out tours, and making millions. I will succeed in this industry, and I have already seen myself in the future’.

This artist was Kanye West, and his debut album College Dropout released the same year and went on to sell millions worldwide. Since then he has released his second album Late Registration in 2005, his third album Graduation in 2007, and his fourth album 808s & Heartbreak in 2008. He has gone on to become one of the richest, successful, and most talked about artists within the HipHop industry. Love him or hate him, you can’t hate the fact that at age 32 he has made his name. I most countries you go to, you will find someone who knows Kanye West. Now he would have achieved the same success even if his visualization were of becoming a Doctor, Accountant, Singer, Pilot, or more. Everything that goes into the body through the nervous system, including sight, sounds, emotions, feelings, et cetera, is recorded in the brain, even when you are in your mother’s womb. This is why certain songs sang to a baby whilst they are in their mum’s womb could be the same song used to calm them down as a young baby when they start crying endlessly.

Our mind is even more powerful and communicates not only with the brain but also with other minds. Our consciousness is one with the Universal consciousness.

Each of us, through our subtle energy bodies, is interconnected so that whatever we think, do, or feel in some remote way affects the consciousness of others and thereby also the Universe as a whole. The more calm and relaxed we are, the easier it is to practice visualisation leading to more positive results. The truth is God’s power is omnipresent and omnipotent. What I am actually trying to get you to see is that every event that is happening right now in your life is connected. Ask yourself one question, how did you find out about this book you are reading right now? Really go back; it could be because you have known a friend for several years who introduced you to another friend during a party, and she recommended this book to you because she heard it from someone else that it was really good. Whatever your story is, there is definitely a story that connects and fits quite perfectly to the present.

If you can break away from the consciousness of this bundle bag of flesh and bones, you will be able to feel yourself as part of a bigger power. The conscious mind is then able to focus that power as you would focus the rays of the sun through a magnifying glass, and the more of the rays you gather in, the quicker the object of your focus will burn.

Visualize by completing the following tasks:

a.) Go on to YouTube and pick about ten video clips of what you associate with success. For example, if you have always wanted to become a Doctor, pick clips of Doctors being interviewed and working in a hospital. Get clips of the lifestyle you will like to lead, a holiday in Barbados, a house in Spain, a clip of MTV Cribs, someone getting married, a couple playing happy families, or whatever else you desire. Pick what you associate with your dreams of success with and watch these videos continuously.
b.) Then use the videos to start creating your own video in your mind. Furthermore, put yourself in the car being driven by your driver, in hospital helping give birth to a newborn baby, and in your country house with you family. Really build your film in your head until it becomes committed to memory.
c.) Once you are happy with your film, play the film in your head when you get up and before you go to sleep. If you are religious, call on the visuals before and after you go into prayer or meditation.
My simple equation for the Law of Visualization is:
Think it, see it, film it, repeat it, feel it, believe it, and work backwards to make it happen.

Whilst I do not judge people, it’s inevitable that in life you will be distracted from your goals by even people who really love you because of their own FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) or because of their lack of PMA (Positive Mental Attitude). Have you ever told someone something you felt you could achieve and they gave you that look, that smile, or, worse, the laughter as if you were leaving in dreamland? Your filtering mechanism makes you replace the can’t do with the can do. When you start saying ‘yes I can’ rather than ‘I don’t know’ or the commonly used ‘dunno mate’, you start opening your brain and subconscious mind to thinking differently; successful people are not people who think like the majority. That’s why only 10% of the population of the world are millionaires. What do you think makes the 10% different from the rest of the 90%? I have had so many debates with several people about this, and the doubters come out with obviously crazy theories such as they were born with a spoon in their mouth, inheritance, and they won the lottery. If you are lucky enough to inherit wealth and you do not learn the principles of success then your chance of failing is still 100%, the same as someone who was born in extreme poverty. People who suffer from extreme poverty and re-programme theor minds to be successful end up being really successful as there is a genuine, clean hunger to better themselves and better everyone else coming up the ladder. The ones who get to the top and forget the principles of success come back tumbling down.

How do you make sure you keep a Positive Mental Attitude:

1.) The practice of Silence – Don’t motor mouth just because you like the sound of your own voice. Silence will make your ears strong and will filter every single noise around you making you hear, feel, and sense things like you have never before. Your silence will help in choosing what you should be receptive to and what you should immediately dismiss.
2.) Refrain from Arguments- Arguments are the biggest distractions. Have you ever had argument that hasn’t lasted way after the argument was finished? Arguments should be filtered out of the mechanism. Take the approach of listening to your opponent vent out with all his or her passion and energy. This will give you time to think carefully about what the root cause of the argument is. Sometimes, and I have been guilty of this myself, we feel the urge to really go into a head to head battle of ‘whose voice sounds louder competition’. It never works; we loose voice, become tired, and are left wondering what the argument about was in the first place. One of the stories I remember from English Literature was that of Romeo and Juliet, but I still can’t remember what the two families, Montague and Capulet, were actually fighting about. Some disagreements last a generation; make a decision to terminate your disagreements now.

3.) Remember to Remember- I know this sounds a bit cryptic, but it really isn’t. You sometimes remember everything except the most important thing worth remembering, which is that ’you are the greatest version of you in this planet, and this knowledge alone makes you love the cranky, weird, good, and bad things about you’. If you do not remember everyday to fall in love with yourself, then you would have a difficult time convincing anyone else to do the same.
4.) Prevent Yourself from Passing Judgement- When you prevent yourself from judging, you create an internal freedom. It’s sometimes hard not to judge others. We love judging how others look, how they speak, their accents, what car they drive, and the list goes on. Try to remind yourself each day when you ‘catch yourself’ judging others. Practice the filtering mechanism of saying to yourself, ‘for the next 30 minutes, I will not judge anyone’. If you do this, little by little you will find that you will gradually get rid of this attitude of judging others.
5.) Start to Identify the Characters within your Everyday Life-
Negative Characters:
• Mr. or Ms. Grumpy – They are never happy and always complain about every single thing. The food is bad, the teacher is horrible, and everybody hates me, and they feel like everyone owes them a favour. Stay away from this kind of people like a plague. Grumpiness is a contagious disease and if five people in your close group told you ‘they felt crap’ after a single question of ‘How are you feeling?’, then you will be the next on the list to feel crap.

• Mr. or Ms. Procrastinator – These are easily identifiable as they are always postponing what they want to do. Their favourite words are ‘Not today, I’ll do it tomorrow’. These people can distract you from focusing on the prize so they need to be avoided at all cost.

• Mr. or Ms. Stress Transfer – I think this is the most dangerous of all the characters. We all have that one person who will ring you up when something bad has happened to them, and they would describe every single thing that happened in so much detail that you instantly find yourself re-living the incident. For Mr or Ms. Transfer, they see you as their personal psychologist. As we have mentioned above don’t let yourself open to OPP (Other People’s Problems).

When you get rid of your negative characters you find yourself automatically attracting positive characters. You have to cultivate your relationships with these positive characters. One of the positive characters you should look out for is:

• Mr. or Ms. Motivator – Not to be confused for the fitness instructor who used to appear on GMTV, Mr. or Ms. Motivator is anyone who is self-driven with a fresh and continuous hunger to succeed. To have this characteristic, you can’t only posses it one minute and then loose it the next. As you will learn in this book, your hunger to succeed is like your hunger for food. Once you are motivated to succeed, your hunger increases until your eating something satisfies it. Upon satisfying hunger, your motivation for food is reduced. Those who succeed are satisfied but learn to make sure their motivation to achieve more is never reduced.

Your beliefs shape the life that you call ‘yours’ and those beliefs are expressed through both mental and physical actions. The mental action always exists first; the physical action follows, having been initiated by the mental act. Filtering Mechanisms are your dynamic methods for altering the mental actions that eventually create your physical experiences

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I have to apologise because I have been missing in action since last week taking a little break from the JK Daily blog. However, what i cannot apologise for is how much fun i had on my break (aka work break) in Spain, Lanzarote. As you can see from the pictures, to say i was spoilt is an understatement. Loved it. Now, let’s continue were we left off. Today’s blog is about the word ‘ENJOY’ which my personal acronym definition is – E.N.J.O.Y- Everything needs justification over the years! Enjoy, share and tell a friend to tell a friend! Let’s go…..
How many people are excited about their day? Not many, I’m afraid. In fact, when they start their day many people tend to think about the entire burden they are going to face about the boring routine they are going to do. Only a few people are happy about their day, let alone excited about it.
But of course, life will be more wonderful if we are excited about our days. Think about how different it will be if you go through your day with passion and enjoyment. Your enthusiasm will energize not just you but also other people around you!
Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes, forms, and situations. It’s a shame, then, that many people have become so accustomed to this beauty that it largely goes unappreciated. In order to enjoy this beauty over the years, you need to appreciate life, food, people, plants, gadgets, and buildings around you by taking a moment to appreciate what makes them so special. Two years ago I found out a secret garden park next to my house. I couldn’t believe that it existed as I had driven past this park for years and never knew that it was filled with so much nature. Nature is an amazing healer for the stresses and strains of modern life. Eating lunch in the park, watching the sunset, or appreciating your rights to choice are just a few simple ideas for how you can enjoy life on a daily basis. The poet e.e. cummings once said, ‘The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.’ How very true. Never be too busy to laugh or too serious to smile. Instead surround yourself with fun people and don’t get caught up in your own sense of importance. You don’t need all the money in the world to start enjoying life. Below are ten things you can start to do right now to seriously enjoy your life.
(a). Have Simple Pleasures. Enjoy a good breakfast in the morning. Time spent playing with my elder sister’s son Dominic is so enriching. These may not seem terribly exciting, but they are some of the simple pleasures I enjoy in life. If you slow down for just a moment and take the time to appreciate these ordinary events, life becomes instantly more enjoyable.

(b). Connect with People and Greet People First. In so many ways, it is our relationships with people that give us the most happiness in life. No man is an island; connect with your loved ones. The best way to enjoy your work more is not to get a raise or a promotion but rather to build rewarding relationships with your co-workers. When you build rewarding relationships with your co-workers, you would naturally be promoted, as a much-loved person is always an essential asset. Always greet people first. Think about what an excited person will do when they meet someone. Will she or he just keep silent or wait for the other person to greet first? Most likely, an excited person will greet other people first. They just have too much energy.
(c). Celebrate Your Successes. During a normal day we are sure to have some minor successes. Perhaps you have successfully dealt with a difficult customer, made a sale, or received a nice compliment from your teacher or fellow student. These aren’t events worth throwing a party for, but why not take a moment to celebrate your success? Share the experience with someone else, reward yourself with a nice lunch, or just give yourself a mental pat on the back.

(d). Feel Music and Not Just Listen to It. Do you know how much a piece of good music can change your mood? It could be classical, pop, hip hop, dance, or whatever gets you in the mood. Start actually feeling and really enjoying the music you listen to.
(e). Enjoy Your Meal. Don’t just eat. Taste it and appreciate its richness.

(f). Taking Pictures. Also browse your photo album for your treasured memories.
(g). Smile. The mere act of smiling will make you feel better about your day. Believe me; it is more difficult to think about how bad your day is when you are smiling.
(h). Find Simple Wonders. It’s hard to be excited if you are drowned in a routine and doing the same thing again and again. Life doesn’t have to be so routine. Be observant and look at your surroundings. Find simple beauties in the breeze of the air or how people do things. Break the routine by looking for simple wonders here and there. There are a lot of them waiting to be found. Find free stuff to do that would cost you northing. I once went through the whole of London as a tourist, and I experienced the London we all take for granted. I went to the museums, the free exhibitions, and the like. The beauty of our country is often unappreciated.
(i). Exercise. Exercising in the morning before doing your other activities will make you physically fit to face the day. It will boost your energy level and make it much easier to maintain enthusiasm in anything you do.
(j). Learn to Enjoy what You are Doing. Sometimes you don’t get to do things you are passionate about. However you can still be excited about your day by learning to enjoy what you are doing. Even if you don’t like something, you can still learn to enjoy it.

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The boy’s will be on BBC Introducing ( BBC Radio Essex) on the 4th of May with an exclusive interview with Ollie Winiberg-Bettell on the 4th of May 2012! Support the guys as they break into the charts!

1.H.O.P.E – Helping Other People Excel
Everyone knows what hope means, but why waste valuable time hoping for something to happen? I hope I make it to a Masters degree, I hope my parents are proud of me, I hope I can find a great girlfriend, boyfriend or partner, I hope there can be some peace in the Middle East, et cetera. You can keep hoping until the end of time. I have never heard of any great success achieved with only hope as the guideline. So I redefined the word ’hope’, which now stands for ‘Helping Other People Excel’. This is because if you adopt a lifestyle based on helping others to succeed in life, you will be succeeding too. In the next blogs i do i’ll write about the law of Karma. It’s even in the Bible as ‘Do unto others what you wish them to do unto you’. Now, you might ask me how helping a friend fill out 20 job application forms will help you get yourself a job. Well, when you help the action should be done selflessly because in life you don’t normally get back the help from the person you helped, but note that there will be an equivalent help somewhere in the universe that will repay you for the help you showed another person. At first this might seem really difficult to understand, but imagine someone came to you and asked for advice in solving a very difficult situation when they know you to be the master at solving this kind of situations It could be a difficult Maths problem or just someone who requires some career choice guidance. Now, you can choose to completely help them with no thoughts of your rewards, or you might think ‘What am I going to get for this help?’. Some people only help other people in order to store the help they offered in their memory bank. I have seen people who remind others of the help they gave them up to two years after the act was done. This is not real help; when you are helping other people excel you don’t store the memory of this action. In fact, I have helped so many people in my life journey but have chosen to forget the help as soon as I did the action. I expected no rewards. This kind of help is pure and clean and without motives or intentions. Practice this often and you will be one step closer to building your successful filtering mechanism. Always remember this, relationships you create are like a ‘bank’. The more you invest in it, the more it grows with interests but constant withdrawals will put you in the ‘red’. Invest in your relationships by constantly helping other people excel!

2. W.O.R.K.- With Obedience and Respect comes Kindness.
In twelve years of business I have seen staff come and go. There have been some great staff that I have loved every minute of working with and with whom I still remain in harmonious contact up till this day, and there are the ones who might have come in with the right intentions, but then jealousy, envy, and greed set in. You see them; they come in with humility and leave with egos. This is also due to the entertainment industry in which we work. It is seriously difficult to keep your feet on the ground if you haven’t grasped the principle of work. My ‘work’ stands for ‘With Obedience and Respect comes Kindness’. Remember this in all companies you currently work for and those you would work for in the future. They have their rules; those rules are probably the reason why you are lucky enough to have met the company and been presented with the opportunity to work in the company. Some people hate rules, and live their lives on a ‘rules are for breaking’ policy and wonder why they end up talking about being successful but actually never are. Coming into someone’s business, work place, et cetera is like entering someone’s house. Now, if I were to come to your house and your rules are for me to take my shoes off at the door, then who am i to say no? I will obey you gladly as this is your house and your rules have made it possible for you to run your house your way successfully. The ‘respect’ in work doesn’t actually stand for ‘respecting the boss’; it stands for respecting the opportunity. People always forget the opportunity they have been given. In 2008, millions of people were out of employment, and some of those who had secure jobs were made redundant. There is a temporary scarcity of employers looking to recruit, yet a small minority of people who have jobs, whether commission or paid, show any sense of gratitude. They choose to come late, call in sick when they know they are well, pretend to work whilst they spend all their time on Facebook or Twitter, or spend their whole time plotting how they can either get a rise or upset their bosses.

If you show a little respect for an opportunity, whether it is for a job, a school place, an audition, or something else, then you will have more opportunities come to you. When you know you have been blessed with opportunities you automatically resonate a kindness that comes natural to you.

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Hope you had a good weekend and you enjoyed yesterday’s blog. For those who ran the Marathon, i feel your pain.. It’s called ‘the day after the run syndrome’ . Anyway, hope you start the week on a high… Onwards and Upwards.. Right, Today’s blog is about ‘Creating your filtering mechanism’. Enjoy!

Imagine you had a very dirty white shirt, I mean one with stains and mud, and really dirty. If this was your most treasured shirt, you would keep on washing it until you get rid of the stains, right? If the shirt had a lot of memories and was a present from a dearest loved one, you will not stop until you get it back to its clean state. Well, that’s exactly how your mind works. You have no control on when you were born or when you are going to die. However, your mind is the only thing the creator gave you control over, and this is very important because if the only thing you have control over is your mind, don’t you think you should keep it clean? That you should look after it and censor what goes on in it? I have a friend called Steven who is very materialistic, which is a complete opposite to who I am, but we all accept his need for material symbols of success that is based on an inferiority complex rather than a love of ‘bling’. He recently bought himself a super large Bentley, and he drives it around Central London where the traffic is completely mental. He actually doesn’t like Bentleys; he just likes the reaction he gets from people in his new Bentley. Hence the inferiority complex, if not treated, will take over his mind. Steven is so busy censoring who gets into his car, because he treasures the piece of metal so much, that he has forgotten to censor who gets in his mind. As a result he attracts the wrong kind of people and situations.

I joined the social networking site, Facebook in 2008. My American staff, Laura Ward, Michelle, and Ashley Barnas, practically pressured me into joining in 2008. They gave me a lecture on the idea of connecting to new people and keeping in touch with older friends at the same time. I was tempted to ask about whatever happened to people visiting each other face to face or the art of picking up the phone and calling your favourite person. Anyway, an adamant Laura helped me set up and I was finally on Facebook. In the space of two days I received over 300 friend requests. I mean, I have met a lot of people in my journeys but 300 friends in two days with names I wasn’t familiar with was a bit too unreal for me. I added my new found friends, and bingo, I started receiving their newsfeeds, status updates, and more not because I wanted to, but just because every time I logged in it was there. I started finding myself drawn into other people’s status updates. Some were pretty depressing, others were controversial, and then there were the scary updates. Then it dawned on me; during the few seconds I spent on Facebook, I was taking in the mindsets and moods of other people. I didn’t really want to know whether Simon and Michelle from Lancashire, who I have never met, are now split up or whether Damien felt like crap because he got up this morning and missed his breakfast.
Do you realise that taking in OPP is the quickest path to CYP? That’s correct, OPP, Other People’s Problems. leads to CYP, Creating Your own Problems. You now already know that what you take in subconsciously plays a big part in your external outcomes.

In previous blogs, I have explained to you how your brain is your receiving station and acts like a magnet attracting to it what your mind and soul subconsciously invite into it. So, if you are thinking you might fail your exam, you are inviting the feeling of failure. If you are thinking you are going to fail to impress at a job interview, then – guess what – that is exactly what is going to happen. The easiest way to look at your brain is thinking of it as a Television station with loads of channels at your fingertips. When you pick up your remote control, you channel hop until you find the channel you are most comfortable with. It might be a music channel, a comedy, a movie, et cetera. Nowadays there is so much filth on Television that sometimes finding something decent to watch is like looking for a needle in a haystack, but surprisingly you always do find something decent amongst the filth in a matter of seconds. In life, your remote control represents your filtering mechanism. It is giving you the chance to choose and settle for the best from the rest.

So, what is the remote control used for filtering your mind?
Everyone has a different coping mechanism. I’ll share with you one that I use, which I would like for you to adopt and share with others. It’s as simple as ABC; I use acronyms. Below are a list of acronyms that have helped me and continue to help me every second of my life.

1. F.E.A.R – False Evidence Appearing Real
I was recently doing a seminar at St. Mathews Academy in London, one of the schools that is so close to my heart. I asked the students what they thought people feared the most. People mentioned death, failure, the unknown, and more. Although some of those are on the list of what people fear, none of those come close to the word ‘fear’ itself, as the greatest fear for mankind is the word ‘fear’. This word has stopped so many people from following their dreams; people are so scared to fail that they don’t pursue success. They would rather be comfortable living in fear. In filtering the mechanism, you have to learn to get rid of fear. You know when fear is ready to attack because your heart beats faster and your brain stops thinking of solutions. You have to desensitise the word fear, and the best way of doing this is by making an agreement with your mind to look at ‘fear’ as standing for ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’. The more you use this filtering mechanism when you are faced by fear, the less afraid you will be of achieving your goals. Want to know other filtering mechanisms i use… Click on tommorrow’s blog to find out!

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It took me back; I remember I always wanted to be a Doctor, Lawyer, or a successful businessman. What happened to the dream of becoming a Lawyer? I did Law at University and graduated with a degree that has helped me and saved me from solicitor’s fees over ten years. What about the dream of becoming a Doctor and most importantly a Gynaecologist? I found out that this dream was actually not the right career path for me because I despised hospitals and hated medicines and it would have been like a chef wanting to cook but hating the kitchen. I am happy now because I am doing what I love and what comes natural to me.

Three weeks after the radio interview aired I returned from the Christmas and New Year holidays and was back at our office in London. I had set up our own radio station, Invincible Radio, back in 2003. As a result of the BBC World Service documentary, which also highlighted and documented on Invincible Radio, we had an influx of new worldwide listeners. In fact, we had over 120,000 new online listeners from countries as far as Japan, Germany, Switzerland, the Caribbean, and Africa, which really opened the doors to many business opportunities for Invincible Group. I hosted my own weekly show on the station, and one day whilst conducting an interview with a then lesser known pop star, Ciara, and discussing the purpose of life and achieving success, I received a call from a listener from Bremen, Germany. He said that he listened to my interview on BBC World Service and was very impressed with how much I had achieved at such a young age, but at age 45 he was very angry about how I kept on flaunting the message of hard work leads to success as he had been working hard for all his life and still hadn’t achieved success. He felt it is time I admitted that some people are lucky and some people are just not lucky.

I let him rant for a good three and a half minutes, and after he had finished I asked him a simple question. ‘What is it that you do?’

He replied, ‘I am a cabaret singer and I have been doing this professionally for over fifteen years.’

I asked him to give us a verse and a chorus. When he did the whole studio was in agreement that this man could not sing a single note. Singing did not come naturally to him. It might have been a hobby, but as a career path the reason why he had been unsuccessful for years was simply because he wasn’t doing what came naturally to him. Some of you have watched Britain’s Next Urban Superstar or X-Factor. You always see Simon Cowell be harsh to artists who might think they got what it takes. Although it’s true that some people come into these sorts of shows for a laugh, there are others who represent very credible talent. There are some who realise that music isn’t really their true natural path.

The boy band JLS have become one of the most successful groups in the UK music industry in less than one year. Most, including them, might think their success was due to X-Factor only. I for one disagree; X-Factor was a catalyst to what was already set by the boys. I remember the boys coming into my office in 2007 for a meeting. They were then called UFO (Unique, Famous and Original). I remember telling them that I have been in the music industry for years and I have seen several artists from Neyo to Mariah Carey and the list goes on. But I had never seen artists with so much conviction, faith, and determination to succeed like them, and, most importantly, they were talented musicians. I predicted that they will win the Best Unsigned Act competition ran by the Urban Music Awards and this will probably be the smallest break as they will go on to dominate globally sooner than they expected. They went on to do a tour throughout the UK club scene via Invincible Group and Luminar Leisure, won loads of new fans, and won the Best Unsigned Act award at the UMA’s. Most importantly, as I write this today, the number of hits they have had in the charts are countless. Now their success had northing to do with X-Factor or us. Their success was a result of the boys finding their true purpose in life and tuning their mind to a level of achievement that meant failure was not an option!
From the day you were born, you had a special talent unique to you. It is something you can do so well and something that comes so natural to you that when you do it you are in ecstasy and in a state of constant happiness. Now, it’s up to you and only you to find out what that special talent is.

When you are a child and have had little experience of life, your unique talents are obvious. However, when you start growing up into a young adult, you take in so many stories and information that are geared towards making you believe that life is hard and as a result some of your unique talents, dreams, and aspirations no longer seem as attainable as they were when you were innocent with little or no real life experience. How can you allow life to confuse you and rob your passion, talent, and ambition away from you? You owe it to yourself to keep drumming into your brain that ‘there is a reason why you are here’ and whether it is to become a Lawyer, Doctor, Chemist, Pilot, or something else. It will have something to do with serving humanity and creating happiness, wealth, and success as a result.

You need to ask yourself what God put you on earth to do. And when you get the answer, take action.

To find your purpose in life, you have to:
1. Understand that you are not a human being that has occasional spiritual experiences. It is in fact the other way around. We’re all spiritual beings that have occasional human experiences. When you really take this to heart, you understand what you are capable of achieving. Driving your car, taking a plane to fly to your favourite holiday destination or sitting in one country and speaking on the phone with a friend or loved one thousands of miles away are not normal human experiences. It feels human because you have gotten used to it. Once you understand that we are truly spiritual beings, you start to embrace your pure potential and understand that the you that you want to release is just waiting for you to release it.
2. When you start asking ‘How can I be of help?’ rather than ‘What is in it for me?’ You automatically switch from looking up to your ego (the fake version of you) to looking to the real you and thereby connecting to opportunities that lead to a discovery of your true purpose.
3. Write it down on paper. Some people will talk until their throats go dry but are so scared to commit to paper. The first action is writing down on paper a list of 50 things that you know makes you happy. It could be watching films, driving, playing doctors and nurses, et cetera. Okay, not that type of doctors and nurses. You might find it hard at first, but you need to do this if you are serious about being successful. It’s easier to write 50 things you hate than writing 50 things you love. You need to connect your likes to a career of its equivalent as there is an industry for every single one of your likes and, if there isn’t one, it is waiting for you to create it. A person who loves PCs and computers and has always been a computer whizz kid needs to seriously consider developing a career path within the IT industry if they find out that they enjoy themselves and go into a state of bliss every time they carry out this activity.
4. After you finish making your Top 50 list as described above, make another list of answers to the following questions. If you were a multi-millionaire with good wealth, health, and a happy family, what would you do? In other words, what work will you do if you had all the money in the world? Secondly, how would you serve your fellow human beings?

You find your purpose in life when your unique talent connects with the needs of your fellow human beings. When you can do this with enjoyment, you start to release the blessings needed for wealth. This is a huge discovery once you put it in practice!!

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Glad everyone enoyed yesterday’s blog. We have gone from 92 facebook likes to 842 likes in the space of 4 days and 3,000 Twitter followers to 4,136..not bad. Keep sharing! With some Universities charging an arm and a leg to get that glorious piece of paper called ‘degree’ and with the high levels of unemployment amongst people with degrees. My blog today get’s into whether ‘Education is really that important’!!! Enjoy!!!

Education is commonly referred to as the process of learning and obtaining knowledge at school, in a type of formal education. However the process of education does not start when you first attend school. Education begins at home. You don’t only acquire knowledge from a teacher; you can learn and receive knowledge from a parent, family member, and even a stranger. In almost all societies, attending school and receiving an education is extremely vital and necessary if one wants to achieve success.

Unfortunately we have places in the world where not everyone has an opportunity to receive this formal type of education. The opportunities that are offered are greatly limited. Sometimes there are not enough resources to provide schooling. Additionally, because parents need their children to help them work in factories, many students have odd jobs that make their education much more untraditional.

Since it is not traditional, in some places, to receive a formal education, the one who receives an education is usually envied, praised, and even admired by members of the community. Children sometimes look at other children with awe just the same way as one child might envy another because he got a new pair of sneakers, and wishes he could have too. There is a sense of admiration, but at the same time there is a sense of jealousy as well. Seeing your peer do better than yourself causes some tension and jealousy because of the scarce opportunities available. As a child, it’s hard to understand why there is a difference.

Learning subjects in school is not enough. One can learn history, math, and science in school and be ‘book-smart’. In addition, one can learn how to live life by knowing what to say when, acting a certain way in certain situations, and being ‘street-smart’. These two types of knowledge are extremely essential to be successful in life. For example, you can have all the ‘book’ knowledge in the world about a certain profession, but if you don’t know how to behave with your co-workers and your superiors when you finally get into employment, having ‘book’ knowledge won’t get you too far.

No matter what, education is the key that allows people to move up in the world, seek better jobs, and ultimately succeed fully in life. Education is very important, and no one should be deprived of it or deprive themselves of it.

Well, if education is so important, why do many young people drop out from school and get into the wrong side of the law?

The young people in schools today, especially those considered ‘at-risk’, face many challenges. Whether it is the major challenges of broken or abusive families, coping with poverty, or unplanned pregnancies and babies, or the slightly more minor challenges of self image, trying to fit in, keeping friends, being attractive, or dealing with all the cruelties that occur in their everyday drama, it is undeniable that young people face difficult life issues that in today’s society sometimes start at a very young age. While many of these challenges are often unavoidable, it is unfortunate that most young people do not have better tools to cope with these challenges in a healthy way.

Like the majority of us all, each and every young person is caught up in a constant search and struggle to feel content. In order to achieve this, many young people try to un-plug their minds from their problems. The main way to un-plug for the majority of these kids is by ‘getting high’, which comes with a whole string of secondary problems. Getting high can be achieved through many methods, not just drugs. Physical and mental violence allows one to ‘get higher’ than the person they abuse, and hustling to make money, legal or illegal, can give one a ‘higher status’. There are many ways to get high, healthy ones too, but, essentially by getting high, young people are able to rise up out of, or at least get away from, their primary problems.

In my talks with several young people who have fallen out of the educational system, I have never heard them say that they are trying to escape from their pain. They are usually not that self-aware. They know what they like and they know what they don’t like, and they will tell you. You will hear something like, ‘I like to kick it with my friends, get high, or whatever.’

This ‘whatever’ attitude has another side. It is the statement ‘whatever’ that can express their ambivalence towards everything they don’t like. ‘Whatever’ is how some of today’s youth who have dropped out of education express their extreme apathy towards teachers (and other adults) that cannot relate to them and to classrooms and institution that do not engage their interests. Breaking through this ‘whatever’ is the educator’s biggest challenge.

I was once invited to speak amongst a few other entrepreneurs at a school in Leicester; I was blown away by the degree to which these kids were disengaged. When it was always my time to speak, some of the kids were basically looking at me with one question. What can you do for me in this second? They assumed I could do nothing.

I ended up doing an exercise where I wrote on the board two words, ‘like’ and ‘dislike’. I asked them to tell me all the things they liked and all the things they did not without holding back. Their faces lit up, they looked at me instead of away from me, and they started calling out various things that I proceeded to write on the board. At the end, we did an exercise in which we concentrated on each side, first ‘dislike’ and then ‘like’ for about 30 seconds each. ‘Like’ made them feel good, relaxed, content, and excited and ‘dislike’ made them angry, tense, and sad.

In doing this, they immediately saw the power of thoughts over their bodies and minds. They were introduced to the power of the mind. However this exercise revealed something different to me. It revealed that these young boys and girls have interests, passions, and inspirations, and that they yearn for an environment in which they can express them.

Educators need to tap into this, honour their yearning, and offer them healthy ways to express it. However, what normally happens is that some of these kids fall into the gap. The gap is the middle bit where they get introduced to the wrong part of society, a gang, bullying, carrying knifes, or other negative things.

When they get lost in the gap they are generally recognised as ‘lost in the system’. They commit a range of despicable crimes until one day karma gets to them and they get caught and put in prison. Whilst in prison they learn from older prisoners and then come out hardened criminals who recruit more young people who have fallen into the gap to commit more crimes on their behalf.
How to prevent yourself falling out of love with education?
1.) Education helps you to organize knowledge. Remember that knowledge is power only when organized and specialized.
2.) Life is a continuous lesson and the education gained in nursery, primary, high school, college, and university are needed to truly develop your mind and help you focus on getting the problem solving skills needed to tackle whatever future career path you decide to choose.
3.) Use education to learn to think, not to follow, and start to combine your learning with action
4.) Get rid of competition. The biggest failures in establishments have been the promotion of competition between students. We all have a gift unique to us and as every single finger on your hands is different so is the mental capability of every single human being. You are unique and different so set your standard to do the best by you; compete with yourself to do your personal best as in life it all boils down to the man in the mirror. Do not feel down or out if for some reason you are more or less intelligent than your counterpart or suffer from some sort of learning deficiency such as dyslexia because some of the most successful people in life weren’t the most intelligent students but used education to develop a creative approach to solve every single challenge.

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One of the young people, Lucy, who subscribes to my online mentoring service, wrote to me recently. She said that she comes from a family of seven (four brothers and three sisters), and she feels as the youngest sister she has been ignored and everyone in her family always picked on her. Every time she wanted to speak in the house she was told to ‘shut up’. As a result she lacked confidence and it reflected in her at school. She found it difficult making friends at school and started doing really badly at her exams. Now, Lucy was a very clever girl and has recently graduated for University and, at nineteen years of age, she finds her self going red with anxiety whenever she is faced with the task of making a presentation in front of the class. I told Lucy to simply take possession of the Lucy she wanted to become; if she continued blaming her family and her mum for her lack of confidence, this disease will consume her in a way that will lead to her failure in life. We discussed a simple solution that was quick to trigger closure on this episode. I told her to put down on paper how she really felt about her past. I told her to list everything down and find an open space were she could burn the list with anything that reminded her of this bad past. This symbolized a conscious burning of the past and an entry into the future. This small, remote, and simple act led to Lucy’s confidence skyrocketing. She decided to leave the past and embrace the present.

Sometimes you might not see how the past affects your ability to reach goals in the future. How can your past life affect what’s going to happen in years ahead? It is really quite important to understand that your past experiences affect you strongly in all you do. In fact, your past is directly responsible to why you are who you are today.
Some of these past experiences may hinder you directly in working towards a goal and some might just be slight hurdles. I know some people who go through life dragging baggage upon baggage of past problems. What happens when you have a heavy load? It slows you down, it makes you unable to react to the changes in your life, and it certainly weighs you down when trying to work towards new goals.
Releasing the baggage would enable you to move more quickly and succeed more easily. Perhaps you are holding on to past hurts, past resentments, anger, or fear. Yet letting go of your baggage could be what you need to be like the guy in the Red Bull TV advert. Yes, letting go of your baggage can certainly give you wings so that you can fly into the future with ease.

So do you think you have allowed past failures to slow you down in achieving new successes? Or is it that you have a reoccurring voice of a friend, family member, or teacher saying you will never achieve anything in life? What about your parents? Did they always encourage you as much as you thought you needed? Did they support you with your school activities and sporting endeavours, or did they show no interest?

What have those people done to your confidence in moving forward and achieving new successes? Have they kept you back because you remembered what they said about you? Do your memories of anger or resentment and desire for revenge make you waste valuable energy that could be used to better effect in attaining success?

How do I cure the disease of the past?
I launched the US branch of my company in New York and hired offices in the famous Wall Street without ever visiting the USA. It was June 2007, and for the first time, after corresponding with my US staff for several years, it was time to set foot into New York for the launch of the US version of the Urban Music Awards. I flew into Newark Airport as it was much quieter than JFK. As I walked out a taxi driver took my luggage, put it in his car, and dropped me at my hotel, The New Yorker in Manhattan. I remember being charged over $150, and I thought northing of it. When our company driver arrived at my hotel to take me to my office the next day, I recounted my first night in New York City. When I got to the part of the taxi driver, he was outraged and said that I was scammed; a local taxi ride from Newark to New York City was only about $65 max. ‘Well,’ I said, ‘that’s NY for you, home of the hustle.’

I travelled back later to London for a business meeting and returned back to New York in July and, as if by fate, the same local taxi driver stood there at the airport again. I reminded him of the previous episode. He felt quite embarrassed, with me sitting at the back of his car and really having a go at him. He then said something I will never forget. He said, ‘Do you know the two most important words in this world?’ I replied that I did not. He then proceeded to tell me. ‘Forgive and forget.’ He said the most important parts of the words forgive and forget are the last parts of each. He said in life when you forgive you ‘give’ and when you forget you ‘get’. I was immediately humbled for I had learnt a very big lesson which I carry with me daily. You give what you get!

It’s important to move forward in your life with love and forgiveness. Forgive those who have hurt you and those who might have lied to you or stolen from you. Maybe they gossiped behind your back or cheated on you. That doesn’t mean you condone their actions, just that you are letting go.

Letting go will release all of that negative energy and will provide you with newfound momentum to perform in your life and attain successes that you might have never before thought possible to achieve.

The best way to achieve this release is to actually note down all the people you need to forgive by creating a list showing anyone who has hurt you. Work on each of these hurts until you are able to forgive each person.

The release of newfound energy will amaze you. Negativity can be unbelievably draining and in many cases can even be harmful to your health.

This is one of the hardest things to do. Forgiving somebody and letting go of hurts and resentments is the biggest life challenge you face. You feel that these people who have hurt you have made you lose your confidence and contributed to your inability to succeed in life.

It’s not these people who have hurt you that are holding you back from earning the successes you deserve to have, it’s the fact that you are allowing those hurts to hold you back that is so damaging. For your own sake forgive the people who have hurt you. It would lead to a freedom that you never knew existed.

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